I started seeing a girl in sep last year. I really liked her and she seemed to realy like me. all was good she would always make effort with me. Then from mid nov to early dec she had 3 deaths to deal with . I took a step back and said im there if needed, we swere still in contact. I gave her a lift to work every day from mid nov to just before xmas(we work at the same place) so it was ok i new she liked me. Then early dec i was very ill, but didnt want to put anything on her she had enouhg to deal with. My doc said it was a stomach ulcer. I could deal with that on my own i thought. just before xmas my doc said i had best go for cancer screening to be sure as i wasnt improving. I had never been so worried, all i wanted to ddo was talk to her but couldnt tell her. Then day after xmas i lost it i had to talk so i hassled her she just refused. after a week or so she still wouldnt talk, but ome day i asked if i could call she said yeah so i did..she didnt answer. then she texts saying her dad tried to end his life after xmas thats why she needed time but and that she still did and she dont want to be with me. i felt terrible and selfish…but was then told i had an abnormal growth that would need a biopsy and i completly lost it and again hassled her. she told me she now couldnt even be friends and all i hd done is prove that we wouldnt work even after she told me what she was dealing with…i no wht she means but i had load to deal with to. she did really like me and i know i put her off..so i told her what i have been going through. she didnt answer…only to say she doesnt like me at all and cant be friends with me…but i know i only acted like thaat becuse of what i had on . what do i do??
I know you right its worng to hassle her and the last thing i want is for her to hate me…but i do feel a little like she used me ll that time…and i have to walk past her all the time
R.E toinvovled….I couldnt tell her becase of everything she had going on as she was dealing with three deaths. I hassled her by callinh and texting alot…i just got crazy…I have apologised but nothing….she prob thinks I am making it up…she has said she dont like me at all…..but i know its cos of how i acted
I have mess up big time with this girl?
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BOB B
February 23, 2010 at 12:41 pm
im sorry but u have to ask hwe
manuel
February 23, 2010 at 12:42 pm
SAY SORRY DOSOMETHING BIG!
Keven
February 23, 2010 at 1:37 pm
keep it short and thats your problem
Bubbi G
February 23, 2010 at 2:19 pm
Dude, you both have enough shit to deal with on your own, you were able to balance your crap and her’s without pushing yourself to much away, but she couldn’t handle it, i say, move on. Or stay clear until stuff settles down.
staboochop
February 23, 2010 at 2:57 pm
Sorry about your problem. Find a support group or something as she keeps telling you to leave her alone. that is atalking her if you do not. Move on and deal with what you have to deal with ok.
godgivengreatness@ymail.com
February 23, 2010 at 3:47 pm
best of luck kid……
sounds real sad….. i cant help on this
Leah
February 23, 2010 at 3:53 pm
You should say sorry. . .and then after that leave her alone if she needs more space…..
Jeff
February 23, 2010 at 4:47 pm
Let it Go. Why would you want to deal with all the baggage she brings anyways. Find someone else dude
tooinvolved1
February 23, 2010 at 4:59 pm
back off for a little while then write her a letter and say you hope she can forgive you and you’ll try never to be selfish again. But you were going thru a lot too.
Questions: why couldn’t you tell her about your health issue at first?
what do you mean you “hassled” her?
Mileyfan23
February 23, 2010 at 5:12 pm
it sounds like you hae a bit of a temper problem!! deal with that first. and it Sounds like shedoesn’tt like you. so give it a rest. MOVE ON!
Maria G
February 23, 2010 at 6:07 pm
Does she know what was going on with you? If not just send her a text explaining why you were acting that way and that she was the only person you could really trust and count on, and that you are sorry you were pushy or whatever. Tell her that even if she still doesn’t want to even be friends that she is one of the best friends you’ve had and that if she needs you you are here for her. Then don’t text her again until she writes back and if she doesn’t don’t take it personal just give her some space. Make sure she knows you are not forcing her into anything and I’m pretty sure she’ll start talking to you again. =) Hope it all works out for you and that you are doing better!
brooke
February 23, 2010 at 6:37 pm
it sounds like you both have a lot going on.
geez this is a hard one
I dont think it’s your fault that she is ignoring you
you just didnt want to put anything else on her right?
and she just has a lot to deal with right?
so it’s not really anyones fault right now.
and you weren’t being selfish so dont think you were
she doesnt seem to be in the right place for a relationship or anything like that right now.
right now all you can do is give her some space for a few weeks
dont ignore her if she tries to talk to her or anything
just leave her alone for a couple of weeks and try to talk to her because maybe she’s not trying to ignore you because, again, she just needs space.
just talk to her in a couple of weeks and if she doesn’t talk to you by then just leave it alone.
she’s just having a hard time right now
neither of you should have to try to deal with something else right now.